Emotional stability is something we all struggle with at times– leaders too.

Leadership is about motivating self and others towards a goal. To do so requires courage, a willingness to be vulnerable, learn from failure and overcome barriers so you can keep growing yourself, your team and your organization while reaching goals–fearlessly.

When emotional junk (anxieties, anger, sadness or regret) haunts, focus scatters. Like walking through cobwebs sticking to your face, you’re uncomfortable. Energy to contain these distractions is exhausting.

What better time is there to hack away emotional junk and clear the cobwebs of your brain so you’re leading the way… fearlessly.

In this article…

You’ll get 3 ways to hack the emotional junk, clear the sticky cobwebs so you can lead fearlessly.

Say BOO with these hacks…

#1– Choose your story—be the author.

I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions.  I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them. ―Oscar Wilde

I like Oscar Wilde’s mindset. Actively working with the emotion with the expectation of learning something useful, enjoying their purpose in your life and then taking charge of them is liberating and fun!

Admittedly, vulnerability and discomfort is involved— the place fearlessness is born.

#2– Choose and practice a daily positive habit for a lasting positive impact.

Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage and Before Happiness worked with a group of stressed tax managers and successfully helped them create a habit of happiness.

Overall, participants who practiced one of the following activities for three weeks scored significantly higher in overall life satisfaction. Feelings of depression improved. Engagement and optimism increased.

Here’s Mr. Achor’s list…

Choose 1 item. Practice it daily for 3 weeks.

  • Jot down three things you are grateful for.
  • Write a positive message to someone in your social support network.
  • Meditate at your desk for two minutes.
  • Exercise for 10 minutes.
  • Take two minutes to describe in a journal the most meaningful experience of the past 24 hours.

Stepping away from the emotion or event surrounding the emotion by deliberately choosing a positive activity  works. We can train our brains even in adulthood to be positive.

Which activity did you choose? I like the last one!

#3– Choose self-compassion when imperfect (and human!)

Know that you can make mistakes and still be smart. People can be disappointed and you’re still worthwhile. You may feel inadequate and there’s evidence you’re more than adequate. Lots and lots of evidence.

When you’re spewing self-hatred for messing up check out the part of you that’s buying into a belief that anything less than perfect is proof you’re undeserving and a failure. You may have internalized a wicked message along your life journey that there’s something wrong with you and for some reason it’s showing up big-time because you’re feeling vulnerable.

Choose self-compassion.

Challenge the negative, judgmental thinking with rational alternatives.

“I’m inadequate” becomes “I’m learning what works and what doesn’t and that’s okay.”

“I’m a disappointment” becomes “Just because there’s disappointment by some, doesn’t mean I’m a disappointment.”

If you need more help clearing out the negative judgments and emotional junk, ask for help.

Here’s your takeaway…

Be the fearless leader you are meant to be by hacking away the emotional junk and clearing those cobwebs by choosing your story, positive habits to practice daily and self-compassion.

Ready to clear out the emotional junk? I’m your coach with a therapy background ready to be fearless with you.  Contact me.